What Inspires You?

Pic from Pixabay

I really love the pic of that tiger. I’m not sure what it is about tigers that I love so much. I guess they’re just so beautiful, and fierce. That said, I would definitely run from one in the wild. Hell, I’d run from one in a controlled setting.

But, I think there’s something else about tigers that mesmerizes me. Maybe it’s inspiration, actually. I Googled tigers and it said they’re a sign of strength, courage, and dignity. Who wouldn’t want to be described that way? Something about looking at a stunning tiger pic is inpiring. So is listening to Eye of the Tiger, but doesn’t that make us all feel like we can rule the world????

I also love humor, so I got this tiger pillow on Wayfair. Who could resist a tiger in a tossle cap? Not me.

Anyway, aside from tigers, there are other things that are sure-fire ways to make me feel like I can conquer anything. Listening to the Rudy soundtrack always does the trick. When I was a reporter, I would be like, listen, if Rudy could make the Notre Dame football team, I can make this deadline! It always worked.

Speaking of Rudy himself, I had the pleasure of hearing him speak in person a year or so ago. Talk about inspiring. That man really has a drive like you wouldn’t believe. Basically everything in his life required the level of effort that he put into making the Notre Dame team. It was quite impressive. I wasn’t sure what to expect on the way to see him speak, but he definitely surpassed whatever I was imagining. That was cool.

Those are just a few of the things that inspire me. As mentioned many times, humor is another motivator for me, so watching or hearing something funny always makes me feel pretty amazing.

But, with many readily-available sources of inspiration, what is it that holds one back? How do you harness those bursts of energy and inspiration and run with them? I’m trying to work on that. I haven’t quite figured it out yet, but I’m doing what I can. I’m at least trying to make a daily effort to take action.

My favorite primary care provider (have I written about her, gosh I love her!) referred me to a Ted Talk by Mel Robbins and then a book by her as well. It’s called the 5 SEcond rule, and it really is great. It’s pretty basic – it’s hard to motivate yourself, so just count backwards and act when you get to 1. It resets your brain ands helps give you a chance to make a better decision or to actually act. I’ve found myself doing it fairly often. It sounds simple (because it is), but it does work.

So, with all of that inspiration, you may wonder how I’m doing with the goals I mentioned in my first post this year? Well, here’s the rundown:

  • Get in shape. For real. Once and for all.
    • I’m down about 3 – 3.5 pounds. I guess that’s alright. It’s not ideal, but at least things are going in the right direction.
  • FIGURE OUT HOW TO LIVE MY PASSION. 
    • I’m pretty happy about this one. It may seem small, but actually writing this blog is a big deal and a big step. It’s actually taking action. Dawn and I are doing pretty well at being consistent and we’re getting better as we go along. Plus, as mentioned, in 2 weeks, we’re going to post a video! I’m really excited about that. Will it be perfect. No. Will it be funny. I sure hope so. Will it be “us,” definitely. Hopefully we’ll be able to build a following.
  • Figure out how to get the sassies (what I call it when my daughter is sassy) and periodic tantrums to go away.
    • This is still a work in progress. We had a few good weeks. Then this week has been “real” again. :/ Honestly, I’m not sure how to improve the situation. Ugh! I guess consistency and setting limits. It’s frustrating.

I’m off to listen to Eye of the Tiger and do some brainstorming about the goals above. 🙂

Working Forward

Image by Igor Link from Pixabay 

I always wanted to work for reasons that most people want to work, and that reason is MONEY! I started working when I was fifteen years old as a bus person at Norwin Diner where I learned to quickly clear and clean tables and bus dishes back to the singing dishwasher.

The work environment was great since most of the employees were either my age or these cranky but funny, older waitresses, who had a smoker’s cough and deep voice. I fondly look back and remember one of these older waitresses selling ‘made-to-order’ erotic Christmas cookies for co-workers – more specifically, naked snowmen with more than your standard snowman parts. What a gem this lady was! I honestly think that she made more money doing this than being a waitress.

After a little over a year, I abruptly quit ‘the diner’ when someone got sick all over a table, and it was my job to clean it up. My boss said to me, you gonna clean that up? And I replied, nope, I am going home. I realized in that moment that I would never make it as nurse and chalked it up to some good life experience.

After my busing days were over, I worked in various other fast food chains before finishing my college studies and then returning to college as an adult to pursue my accounting degree. As I gained my experience in accounting at various companies, it helped me to ‘check-the-box’ in what I really wanted from my career path. Sure, I probably made some poor decisions in leaving some companies too soon, but I always felt that if I evolved from the work, or the learning ended, that I needed to move forward. I love learning and working hard.

However, it all changed when I became a mom, because I wanted to stay home!!! All the other mothers in my neighborhood stayed home, so I felt all eyes on me when I would pack my baby up in the car to drive him to daycare. I also got the mom-guilt at work, because I worked with all men; they would say, why aren’t you at home with your baby? It was a rough scene somedays. I did this for four years until I could finally step down from a full-time job and start looking for a part time accounting position.

I made it my mission to consider everything that I wanted out of my next job leap. I like to compare and think of my frequent career changes as that old tv show, Quantum Leap, always jumping into my next adventure. Pay, hours, flexibility, distance, and limited customer service – a lot of accounting jobs are a glorified secretary role, especially when you are the only girl in the office. I was not going to lower my standards.

Fast forward to my current job as a remote, part-time accountant, all my expectations are met and my employer and client value my input. Now the other side of this equation is that I no longer have daycare support and there have been cases where some ‘people’ think that I have all this extra time – so not true!

My job demands an intense schedule, so work is constant. I also find myself missing the comradery of other employees, so I often advise my son’s soccer ball, Wilson, for final decisions, haha. But at the end of the day, working remotely has drastically changed my life for the better. I get to continue my profession, and my mombligations (I just made that word up, mom + obligations). In addition, I know longer have to get rush myself to get to work, and I am available at a moment’s notice if my kids need me. My point is that you don’t have to settle for a job, there are satisfying careers, but it will require work.

Dang it YouTube! (and an idea)

I got sucked in. I should’ve been writing a post for this page or doing something else productive. I don’t usually get lost in YouTube. It’s cool, and endless, but as the mom of a young kid, I DVR a few shows and watch them in the shadows of the night when the TV is actually available.

But, over the last few days, I’ve gotten sucked into a few things on YouTube. The first is James Corden’s Carpool Karaoke. I could watch that for hours. Nearly every one of them is amazing. The one with One Direction cracks me up. I love when they’re impressed how well James can sing one of their songs. The choreographed song with jean jackets (James’ idea) is also hilarious.

I didn’t really realize how funny Harry Styles is (which inevitably led to me searching for other episodes of Carpool Karaoke with him).

The second thing was The Secret World of Jeffree Star. I like makeup, learning what drives people, business, and pink, so everything about that docu-series was right up my alley. The series is like 5-6 parts and I watched them all… then I realized that there were several follow up documentaries.

The one I started watching (but miraculously peeled myself away from) is called the Beautiful World of Jeffree Star, I think. It’s about the making of an eyeshadow palette. I will certainly return to this, but I need to wait for a holiday weekend or something, haha!

But, all of that YouTube watching inspired me and Dawn to start doing videos of our own.

We’ll certainly share them here. As I mentioned in one of my recent posts, I always wanted a talk show, but haven’t figured out how (or rather what topic) to do it around. While it was fun to post the other videos I’ve done in the past, I love the idea of having a friend with me – kind of like the relationship between Howard Stern and Robin Quivers. They have great chemistry. Anyway, it’s the conversation that fulfills me. I cannot get enough of a fun conversation.

So, she and I committed to writing 3 weeks of posts and then posting a video, ideally weekly. She and I both have families and day jobs, so it may take us a little bit to become consistent, but that’s our goal – keep writing (1x/week each) and do one video a week. We’ll talk about random stuff, maybe some reality shows, maybe high school days, maybe current (celebrity) events. Who knows!

I’m not looking to create videos that change the world (although that would be cool), I just want to make people laugh. I so value people who can make me laugh, and want to be that for other people too. So, stay tuned!

2020 The Year of the ‘Perfect’ Vision

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

Hi! You may have read entries from this blog, and thought weren’t two people writing this? There are two bloggers’ pictured and two bios but only one continues to post! Yes, you caught me, I never submitted. But here I am, finally, in my first, never-before-seen entry, late to the party but ready to write and share some of my thoughts with you.

First and foremost, let’s give it up for the new year! 2020 a year to me as noteworthy as any year out of the 80’s, and why do you ask? Well let’s see, I have seen several puns related to the year that reference vision, windows, and Barbara Walters. Not to mention, this year has two identical, even numbers, what’s not to love?

Plus, if you’re like me, you always view each new year as a fresh start or an opportunity to maybe do something different or better. Currently, I could not be further from my optimistic view since working from home has made some things too available for me, such as food, laziness, and tv-binge watching, feeling very Garfiled-esque. Thankfully though, I am making strides to better myself.

My first betterment this year was making a vision board inside a class setting in downtown Irwin. I am not an arts and crafts person, so I knew going in that it was not going to be Pinterest worthy.

Inside the class, we took part in cutting out from magazines are aspirations for the year and discussing with neighboring classmates. We then pasted them to a board to visually inspire these goals to become a reality. It was a great setting to be a part of and a much-needed day out for me. I don’t get a lot of free time unless…I am sleeping! Ha-ha, no joke.  

After class, everyone got to take their boards home, trust me, no one was asking me for mine, lol.

It was at home that I decided that if I just tucked my vision board away that maybe I would forget the importance of my visions, so I decided to hang my board in my bathroom as a daily reminder! Since then, all of my dreams have come true! Not! I am kidding, but seriously seeing all my visions for this year daily has inspired me to come up with ways to make these visions a reality.

I will keep you posted if any of them do come true. After taking this class, I realized that it’s never too late to visualize what you want for yourself and achieve it!

It’s Been a While…

So, it’s been a while. Like a few years. But, here we are, trying to get back on track and start writing this for real this time!

I guess a good place to start would be to do a whirlwind catch up. In the last 3 years I’ve lived a LOT of life. I’m pretty sure that I posted in the past about what a year 2015 was (if not, let’s just say it sucked. Miscarriage, lots of relatives died – including my dad, I had a high-risk pregnancy and delivered my daughter 3 months early, she had a 3 month Nicu stay). Well, 2018 and part of 2019 looked a lot like 2015, and the second half of 2019 looked a lot like 2004 – except for me… I’m about 40 pounds heavier than in 04 (WTH???). :O

Some of the notable points are our family had a serious health issue (all is well now, thank goodness), two of our pets died one month apart, and we had a major move. We’re back in the north again! People think we’re nuts for that, but look, Dorothy was right. What can I say?

Some things that haven’t changed:

  • I work for the same company I did in the south, which is pretty awesome because it means no commuting in the snow.
  • I still need to lose weight (insert face palm emoji here…). I’m working on that with Caleigh.
  • I still need to get this blog going (insert emoji of a clock here – what the heck have we been waiting for???) – I’m working on that with Dawn.
  • I haven’t gotten to have Thanksgiving dinner or go to the mall with Bret Michaels (insert heart emoji here…) – honestly, that’s such a dream of mine, haha! I’ve met him a few times and he is the nicest human alive. I’m not even sure how he’s a real person. I have to get to hang with him at the mall for an afternoon at least once in my life!
  • I still need to figure out how to make my dream of having a talk show come true – I’m trying to find the solution to that too. That one takes a lot of work. Or maybe I’m overthinking it.

Not starting a talk show definitely bothers me every day that I haven’t done anything about it. I figure 2020 is a good time to figure that out. Wouldn’t it be lovely to get it going before turning 40? Life has been very life-y since 2015, but that can’t be an excuse anymore. People do it and find a way, and I need to do that too. With everything being so accessible these days, there’s really not a reason to not do it. Here’s a cool article I read about it never being too late.

And here’s a meme that I love (and need to live by…) – note that I (obviously) didn’t create this meme, I found it on Google.

Options According to Yoda

It bothers me that SO many people in my life know that about my longtime dream of having a talk show, and I’ve done nothing. I’m not one who cares what others think about me, but it bothers me that I could be perceived as a dreamer rather than a doer. How awful would that be? Do they put that shit on headstones “She dreamt of a talk show.” Ugh.

I was texting with someone earlier today and I wrote “I don’t care if it’s a talk show with an audience, it can be on youtube. I just want to get to a point where I a) do it, and b) can sustain myself doing it. I want that to be my job. I want to be like Caleigh. Cheer is her passion and she has built her gym into something amazing that I’m SO proud of her for. I want to build something amazing and have my family and friends be proud of me for it.” I have a cool corporate job, but getting to make people laugh and figure out why they are how they are is what makes me actually feel fulfilled. I LOVE talking to people and trying to learn about them.

I don’t have the answer, but I’m working on it. By the end of 2020, I need to say that I’ve been working on it and things are *happening.* I have put some videos on youtube, check them out!

Speaking of 2020, I’m not one for resolutions, but hey, for shits and giggles, I’ll put some things that would be nice to do down. Perhaps goals, not resolutions.

  • Get in shape. For real. Once and for all. I don’t want to look at another damn picture and say “wouldn’t it be lovely if I ____.” I want to look at a picture and say “yes, that paid off. I’m so glad that I no longer use the whale emoji in texts to my friends when talking about heading to the pool or beach.”
  • FIGURE OUT HOW TO LIVE MY PASSION. Seriously. Guys, I know this must sound stupid on some level. She wants to talk for a living. I know that sounds nuts, but seriously, it’s what I want to do, it’s what people have done, and I need that to be me so that we’re not having this same conversation again in Jan. 2021. I want to be living my passion so that my family and friends are proud of me and think of me as someone who actually lives their dreams, not just fantasizes.
  • Figure out how to get the sassies (what I call it when my daughter is sassy) and periodic tantrums to go away and have the sweet smile return all the time. I know a smile 100% of the time is nuts too, she’s a kid, not a robot, but dang, I miss seeing that ever-present smile. She is still SO happy, but she’s also sassy sometimes. The other day on the phone with a customer service person, he asked if I had any other questions. I said yes, do you have any tips about toddler temper tantrums? He got a kick out of that, but sadly he had no tips to share.

So, that’s it. Dawn and I are going to make a real effort to keep this blog up, and I will attempt to meet the other goals for 2020.